Why do muslim men nowadays dont order their women to cover themselves?

WHY DO MUSLIM MEN NOWADAYS DONT ORDER THEIR WOMEN
TO COVER THEMSELVES?
PUNISHMENT OF AD-DAYOOTH (THE PERESON WHO BEARS
IMMODESTY IN HIS FAMILY)
We live in societies in which most men and women have lost their
sense of modesty, women are obsessed with their appearances and
wear clothes to be seen by others and to attract the attention of
other men even if they are married! They have lost their sense of
shame. Marriage is often looked upon as old-fashioned and short
term affairs and frivolous relationships are the norm, everyone
waiting to attract a better partner and feeling totally justified to
dump one partner for another at the drop of a hat. Feminism too
has reached its peak and men and women are told to suppress their
natural emotions. Men are not even embarrassed when their wives
are dressed up and attract the attention of other men, they don't
mind if another man sees, chats, laughs and even dances with their
womenfolk and if they do mind, they are told not to be so
possessive!
In Islam we have a concept of Gheerah. Gheerah is an Arabic word
which means protectiveness or jealousy. It is a good type of
jealousy, like when a man feels jealous or protective over his wife or
sisters and other-womenfolk and doesn't like other men to look at
them. It is a natural inbuilt feeling Allah has given men and women.
The Prophet (SAW) had the most Gheerah for his wives and all of
the companions were known for their Gheerah.
All Muslim men should have a collective sense of protectiveness for
Muslim women as Allah says in the Qur'an: "The Men are the
protectors and maintainers of women…" (Surah An-Nisaa, Ayah
34).
PUNISHMENT OF AD-DAYOOTH !
Ibn 'Umar Narrated that Prophet (s.a.w) said: Three kinds of people
will not enter Paradise: the one who is disobedient to his parents,
the man who doesnt care who enters upon his family (i.e ad-
dayyouth), and the women who copy masculinity with men.
[Ref: Saheeh-at- Targheeb, hadith no. 2070, Hassan saheeh]
“Three people will not enter paradise, and Allaah will not look to
them on the Day of Judgement: the one who is disobedient to his
parents, the woman who imitates men and the ad-Dayooth.”
[Musnad Ahmad]
Ad-Dayooth is the man who permits women for whom he is
responsible (eg: mother, wife, sister etc.) to engage in illicit sexual
relations, or to display their beauty to strange men, thereby
stimulating their sexual desires.
"Allah has forbidden the Paradise to three people: the alcoholic, the
runaway slave, and the one who is complacent (pleased/alright
with) in the face of the evil deeds that his family is performing"
[Sahih al-Jami # 3047]
Abu Sa'eed al-Khudri said: "The Messenger of Allaah (peace and
blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: 'Allaah will ask His slave on
the Day of Resurrection until He says: What prevented you, when
you saw something evil, from denouncing it?'" According to another
report: "One of you will be asked on the Day of Resurrection until he
is asked: What prevented you from denouncing evil when you saw
it?"
[(Reported by Imaam Ahmad and Ibn Maajah, 4017; see also Saheeh
al-Jaami', 1818]
And on the issue of Ghayrah, Ibn al-Qayyim, rahimahullaah, said,
"And the Dayyouth (the man with no jealousy over the women in his
family) is the most vile of Allah's creation, and Jannah is forbidden
for him, (because of his lack of Ghayrah - jealousy).
The foundation of the Religion is Ghayrah, and the one without
Ghayrah is one without Religion, for Ghayrah protects the heart and
enlivens the limbs, and shields one from evil and lewdness, and lack
of Ghayrah kills the heart so that the limbs die, so that there
remains not even shielding from [the minor things].
And the example of Ghayrah in the heart is the example of the
strength that shields one from sickness and fights it off, so if the
strength leaves, he will be faced with the sickness, and will not find
any thing to protect himself from it, so it will establish itself [within
him] and destroy him ."
[Ad-Daa' Wad-Dawaa', p.77]
Men who do not care about how their women behave and appear in
front of other men and don't enforce hijaab upon their wives or
women-folk are called Dayyooth. Being a Dayyooth is a major sin
and a detailed discription of this evil characteristic can be found in
adh-Dhahabee's book of Major Sins (Kitaab ul-Kabaa'ir).
A story of Gheerah
To further understand the quality of Gheerah, we can look at an
incident that Asmaa' (RA) the daughter of Abu Bakr As-Siddeeq
(RA) and sister of Aisha (RA), relates about herself. Abu Bakr was a
wealthy merchant and he married his daughter Asmaa' to the great
companion Az-Zubayr ibn al-'Awwam (RA) who was a very poor
man but a man of great piety and one of the companions who were
promised Paradise. Asmaa' relates: "When az-Zubayr married me,
he had neither land nor wealth nor slave…", so Asmaa' had to work
very hard kneading dough, going far off to get water. "And I used to
carry on my head," she continues, "the date stones from the land of
az-Zubair which Allah's Messenger (SAW) had endowed him and it
was a distance of two miles from Madeenah. One day, as I was
carrying the date-stones upon my head, I happened to meet Allah's
Messenger (SAW), along with a group of his Companions. He called
me and told the camel to sit down so that he could make me ride
behind him. I felt shy to go with men and I remembered az-Zubair
and his Gheerah and he was a man having the most Gheerah. The
Messenger of Allah (SAW) understood my shyness and left. I came
to az-Zubair and said: "The Messenger of Allah (SAW) met me as I
was carrying date-stones upon my head and there was with him a
group of his Companions. He told the camel to kneel so that I could
mount it, but I felt shy and I remembered your Gheerah." So Asmaa'
declined the offer made by the Prophet (SAW). Upon this az-Zubair
said: "By Allah, the thought of you carrying date-stones upon your
head is more severe a burden on me than you riding with
him." (related in Saheeh Bukhari)
Look at the sense of dignity and modesty of Asmaa'! See how she
felt shy in front of men? See how careful she was about her
husband's feelings? She knew that her husband had a lot of
Gheerah so she didn't want to upset him by accepting the Prophet's
(SAW) help even though the Prophet was the purest of men and
even though it meant bringing hardship on herself! And look at az-
Zubair (RA), even though he had a lot of Gheerah, he didn't want to
inconvenience his wife. What a beautiful relationship they had!
"Nurturing our sense of Gheerah"
Sometimes Muslim women don't understand if their menfolk want
them to cover their faces or if they ask them to change something
about the way they dress or speak in public, thinking that the men
are being over-protective. But my dear sisters! If your husband asks
you not to wear a certain colour of khimaar because it brings out
the beauty of your eyes, or if he wants you to cover your face - by
Allah, be thankful! Be proud of the fact that your husband has a
sense of Gheerah for you and that he values you and cares for your
hereafter. He knows what men can be like more than you do and so
never try and suppress his Gheerah in these types of matters. And
his concern for you should incite your own sense of honour! Why
should any man be able to see your beauty and think indecent
thoughts about you? We must nurture our own and our menfolk's
sense of Gheerah by behaving and dressing modestly ourselves and
paying attention to their valid opinions. We expect certain behaviour
from them and they expect it of us. And besides, if our husband
asks us to do something that it not Haraam, we must do it.
Subhan Allah! Look at the difference between how Islam values and
protects women and how cheaply women are treated outside of
Islam! As Muslims we have to be careful that our Hayaa' (sense of
modesty and shame) and Gheerah doesn't wear out in a society in
which people have lost their Hayaa' and Gheerah.